Coaching and supervision to be your WHOLE self in motherhood
Because being a mother and a woman are the most rewarding yet challenging roles in life.
Why is it so important to focus on you, especially after becoming a mother?
If there were a job description for motherhood, it might look something like this: Ideal candidate must be a self-starter, able to comfort and bond with a new, vulnerable human by holding, feeding, and responding to nonverbal cues. Responsibilities include protecting this human from external threats and actively influencing their academic, spiritual and social development. Candidate needs equal parts tenderness and strength, grace and patience under pressure, healthy boundaries and always putting themselves the last. This job is unpaid.” – inspired by book Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel
As moms we struggle, do not get enough support and guidance, feel misunderstood, underappreciated or completely lost. Even if we are feeling that there is no fit between this job and me at all, this is a job that we cannot hand in a resignation letter and find a better one…
We will never understand what motherhood is until we get dropped in the midst of it ourselves and discover a new identity that we never knew was there. Every motherhood is completely different as is every woman, their social, political, family, environmental background and their partners´. What often happens in motherhood is comparing yourself with other moms and struggling with understanding why is it so different for me? Friends, other moms, family members might not be the ones that we want to turn to, because no other person can understand what each single person as a mom is going through – every experience is just so different.
There are a few times in a person´s life when they are very vulnearable - periods that have a great impact on a person and their future. Two of these periods are the first years of a child´s life and the time after becoming a parent, because both times we develop a personality and a new role and place in the world. We cannot change our past, but we can change the future for ourselves and our children. This is why looking for support is so important.
Topics I can support with:
Struggling with appreciating being a mom and yourself at the same time
Being lost in motherhood and not knowing who you are as a person/woman anymore
Feeling exhausted, tired, drained, stressed or anxious
Not knowing what you want to do anymore with your career
Struggling with the relationship with your partner
Feeling lonely or misunderstood
How it works
1st session
Complimentary chemistry meeting where we will decide if there is a connection between us to start working together.
5 following sessions
I will offer a safe space for you to bring your whole self to notice, understand, reflect and discuss your challenges by using various techniques including but not limited to breathing and body work. I will not “fix” you, rather partner with you on your journey.
Individual session outside the package
If you feel like committing to 5 sessions is too much at once, it is possible to work with individual sessions.
All sessions will take place in a safe venue in Tallinn city center or online if preferred.
Sessions can either take place in English or Estonian.
First and foremost you will have my undivided non-judgmental attention to be truly listenened to. In every session I will help you to discover and work through your previous experiences, thoughts, feelings, patterns that are influencing your life right now or have had an impact previously. Every 1,5 hour session is for you for self-reflection, discussions, questions and mindfulness to go deeper into thoughts and emotions and start seeing things outside of the boundaries to enable change.
About me
Coaching & Supervision studies by International Supervision & Coaching Institute November 2022 - June 2025
Human Resources professional with people leading and development experience in global corporations since 2016
NLP - Neurolinguistic Programming in coaching basics by Ave Eero - 2023
Emotional Intelligence Certified Assessor by Talogy - 2021
Thomas International PPA (DISC) Practitioner Certificate - 2020
PAPI 3 Personality and Preference Inventory Certified Assessor by Talogy – 2021
Mindfulness by Vaikuseminutid – 2018
Bachelor in Business Administration and Management – the Hague 2017
Bachelor in Physiotherapy - Tartu 2013
Experience as a client with occupational-, analytical-, holistical therapy, coaching & supervision
Close to two decades of self analysis and development in psychology
I lived three decades with an anxiety disorder and low self-esteem feeling lost and lonely. I worked for years with various therapies on my own fundamental struggles and understandings and finally learnt to accept and love myself for the first time at the age of 32. But then I lost myself completely once again after becoming a mother … only to re-start rebuilding myself block by block. Now supporting other women and mothers as well.
Questions you might ask before contacting me:
-
If it takes from birth until the day you arrive at the session to start really working on whatever is bothering you or if a problem has been incubating for many months, it makes sense that you might need a few more than a couple of one hour sessions to find the relief or solution. Neuroscience shows that change takes time.
-
Having lived myself in 5 different countries, I have the experience of living in a society, where I cannot speak the national language and therefore miss out on relevant information and many necessities. Having a child in a foreign country without the support of family or friends adds another layer of extreme stress and loneliness to motherhood. With very limited mental health information and support available in many countries for English speaking people, my focus is offering help to change the situation for better by enabling one woman and a mother at a time to have access for support with consulting & supervision in English.
-
During critical and life changing periods in life we tend to fall into old habits or lose our way. Becoming a mother adds a a new dimension to “you” and being in a constant rush and stress in the same environment turns off your “thinking brain” due to the flood of cortisol in your body. When functioning on autopilot, all the energy in your brain is focused on “fire fighting” the daily challenges and there is no time to actually take a breath and think. In my sessions you can take the time off only for yourself in a trusting relationship, which decreases cortisol levels, allowing you to direct the energy into another area in the front of your brain and think more clearly and effectively to make the right decisions for you. Together we can then look into your challenges, feelings, patterns and fears that are not supporting you and see if and how to allow change. If you do not take the time for you, noone will give it to you.
-
Most of us know the saying “It takes a village to raise a child”. We also know that in today´s world mothers and fathers are usually raising their baby after the release from the hospital alone. Yes, we have friends sending flowers if we are lucky and grandparents and siblings visiting and trying to help, yet most of the challenges day by day we go through alone with the father of the child or without. When we raise our kids, we make mistakes - we are human, yet if we do not heal our own pains and understand our misdoings we pass our problems on to our children. The demands of being a mother are enourmous and without having the right mental and physical support, it is perfectly understandable that we struggle and the implications on our children are huge. For example science has shown that by 3rd month a baby is mimicking their mother´s sounds and expressions including facial expressions - if the mother is anxious, worried, stressed or depressed, this is what your baby will mimick, this is his/her reality and first perception of life. Lack of presence by mom damages brain circuits meant for connection and instead strengthens circuits designed for preservation, setting the child up for potential mental problems in future life and relationships. This is the reason why I focus on mothers. We are the ones that we can work on and improve for our children to have a better and healthier life, but also for ourselves to enjoy being a mother and a woman.
Client´s feedback
-
Kadri leaves a print in your heart. She is like a fairy who sits on your shoulder after meetings everyday when you lose sight of your goal. Therefore, if you feel that your mind has wandered hopelessly - sit down comfortably with a cup of tea and.. allow yourself to be carried away by the conversation again with Kadri. The topics that I discussed with Kadri on multiple fronts help me to this day. Sometimes I go back in my mind to a moment when I had a dialogue with my mind, not my heart. Little tricks and questions for myself.. and I feel that all roads are more open, because I can move towards my dreams more focused. If you feel that you are your own obstacle to move further in your career or in life in general, then it is worth trying coaching with Kadri. It's quite an eye-opening experience when you can travel inside your own mind. And to come out of there with new insights and goals to be motivated to fulfil for yourself. And believe me.. Kadri is sooooo nice that it is worth giving life a chance and trying to move purposefully towards your dreams.
-
Kadri has truly helped me better understand myself and see things from a different perspective after the birth of my little one. Since Kadri is also a mom, she gets the challenges of motherhood and knows how to support a mom in finding herself again. When a baby arrives, a mom faces unexpected challenges, and often her partner can’t fully understand or help her navigate through them. As a coach, Kadri offers a lot of support and has a great set of tools to help you realize your strengths and bring them into your daily life. I really appreciated how gently Kadri treated my feelings and how she adapted to them during our sessions. During our time together, we tried a few different methods that helped me understand myself better. Even though I was familiar with some of these techniques, I couldn’t really apply them on my own before Kadri’s guidance and support. I highly recommend that any moms who feel exhausted or lost in motherhood take some time for themselves and meet with Kadri. I promise you, this time will be 100% worth it! Moms often forget to take care of themselves to make their little ones happy, and even when reminded, they don’t always know how to do it. One of the methods Kadri suggested helped me remember what I love and gave me permission to actually do it! Another great thing about Kadri is that she speaks English fluently, which is a big plus for expat moms. It's not always easy to find someone in Estonia who can offer this kind of emotional support in English. As a bonus, some of the tips and techniques Kadri shared with me, I was able to pass on to my partner at home, which helped not just me but also my husband indirectly. Meeting Kadri was an investment in myself that has paid off many times over!
-
What I liked most about our meetings and your approach was the non-judgmental atmosphere and your very warm approach. I also liked that you opened up a bit about your life so that a trusting conversation could take place. Although sometimes it was difficult to open up or look into myself at all, your guiding questions helped a lot. It was also nice to never really know what the conversation would turn out to be, it was kind of liberating. I always felt welcome and good when I met you. The benefit that came from these meetings was probably more self-belief and awareness of the surroundings. Often you don't even think about how some seemingly small things can have a big impact on life. Also, the fact that there are actually people and specialists with whom such a deeper conversation fits. I have always thought that I would not be able to find such a person who would be really willing to see, listen and help. I recommend your coaching sessions to absolutely everyone. For those who already know and feel that some places in life need to be reviewed, but also for those who do not feel it so deeply. It is precisely because we do not really know what is hidden within us that habit has a powerful force. Often we don't think that we can actually do much better. And well, it is difficult to find a nicer and warmer person.
Reach out to me
..even if you are in doubt or share this opportunity with any mothers you think might benefit in meeting me.